tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post116237416592806859..comments2023-07-01T09:49:19.815-04:00Comments on Cabezalana: P Minus 10Melhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18047049720897209506noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post-1162675208308091492006-11-04T16:20:00.000-05:002006-11-04T16:20:00.000-05:00Most excellent! I first saw you in person when yo...Most excellent! I first saw you in person when you were just leaving that whole relationship behind - and you sound so much "lighter" now - so yes, you are shedding it all! Emotional and physical baggage be gone...SaraSkateshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06838471526988517447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post-1162580406222616182006-11-03T14:00:00.000-05:002006-11-03T14:00:00.000-05:00Good for you! It must be wonderful to actually SE...Good for you! It must be wonderful to actually SEE a physical image of you dumping the crap you've had to deal with. Sounds like you're living in a good healthy relationship and treating your body good and healthy as well. The two go hand in hand.<BR/><BR/>Manipulative people really piss me off. There's a reason those people end up Xs. Cross them out of your life, out of your mind and get Christinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07220787046326676101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post-1162518136073039522006-11-02T20:42:00.000-05:002006-11-02T20:42:00.000-05:00Damn. Your X sounds much like my X (or Psycho-X a...Damn. Your X sounds much like my X (or Psycho-X as my brother called him) with just a few of the details changed. Mine told me when I hit 98 pounds that my ass was getting big. Congratulations on shedding the physical and emotional weight!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post-1162518090421496642006-11-02T20:41:00.000-05:002006-11-02T20:41:00.000-05:00I remember when you were leaving S (we hadn't met ...I remember when you were leaving S (we hadn't met IRL then but you and Sara had and that's close, grin). I think some of us were a little worried about you--you seemed down on yourself in a way that was so far from reality--but at the same time you seemed to know that it wasn't true. I'm so glad you're in a better place now. It's wonderful to see. It's not about weight, it's about happiness.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post-1162431099048482382006-11-01T20:31:00.000-05:002006-11-01T20:31:00.000-05:00It's amazing how shedding emotional weight often g...It's amazing how shedding emotional weight often goes hand-in-hand with shedding physical weight. About the same time I decided to give up my pursuit of a Ph.D. (after 7 miserable years in grad school), I also began working to lose weight. <BR/><BR/>I remember my soon-to-be-former advisor commenting to me that I seemed "lighter," and not just because I had lost 40 pounds. It was a great Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post-1162420632171789212006-11-01T17:37:00.000-05:002006-11-01T17:37:00.000-05:00It is always startling for me to realize just how ...It is always startling for me to realize just how much the extra weight I carried for so many years had begun to define me. I know that I was a good person all that time. But I wasn't "me." Less of me has meant more of me, in many ways.<BR/><BR/>And day-am don't I look good in my jeans!! I defy anyone to tell me different. ;)<BR/><BR/>Great job on the weight loss. It is the hardest thing, Sheepish Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15564802976550099985noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post-1162408155795610502006-11-01T14:09:00.000-05:002006-11-01T14:09:00.000-05:00Wow. Just give me S.'s address and I'll call The F...Wow. Just give me S.'s address and I'll call The Feminist Mafia, k? <BR/>For your part, congrats on the weight loss and for coping with that relationship. You sound so sane about the whole situation.FemiKnitMafiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06515344770059367329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post-1162394567216372792006-11-01T10:22:00.000-05:002006-11-01T10:22:00.000-05:00Hooray for the loss of luggage! I think you handle...Hooray for the loss of luggage! I think you handled S perfectly. Life is too short to spend it with people who don't have your best interest at heart.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post-1162393732392247092006-11-01T10:08:00.000-05:002006-11-01T10:08:00.000-05:00Congratulations on the weight loss, but even more ...Congratulations on the weight loss, but even more on the baggage lightening. It is all too easy to buy into the negative stuff we hear about ourselves for some reason. <BR/><BR/>I, too, somehow got the blame from a gf (years ago with, ironically, an S as well) for her cheating and, get this, eating disorder. So know you are NOT alone.carrymhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05484055935082587097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post-1162388667320767012006-11-01T08:44:00.000-05:002006-11-01T08:44:00.000-05:00Congrats on finding a better, healthier way of liv...Congrats on finding a better, healthier way of living and thinking. You have really found balance and happiness, and what a wonderful place to be! The journey to find it is not always easy, but the destination is amazing. Have a great day!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post-1162386772612917732006-11-01T08:12:00.000-05:002006-11-01T08:12:00.000-05:00You're completely beautiful, Mel. The baggage is d...You're completely beautiful, Mel. The baggage is definitely dropping away, because the light's turned on--your eyes say it all. That can't happen when you're drowning in bullshit and Bach. When I got rid of my own version of emotional abuse (horseshit and halakah), I lost 40 pounds. I'd never been overweight before that, but the entire marriage was marked by that 40-pound emotional hazmat suit. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22941821.post-1162380420501601682006-11-01T06:27:00.000-05:002006-11-01T06:27:00.000-05:00I first had contact with you before the end of you...I first had contact with you before the end of your relationship with S, and the man you are now sounds completely different.<BR/><BR/>Congrats on the weight loss, but even more on unpacking the baggage and putting your stuff away.<BR/><BR/>Everyone has baggage, the lucky ones get to unpack it and use the space for something else in their life.<BR/><BR/>Barbara<BR/>http://Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com